If you have been asked to write a eulogy for a friend’s memorial service, you may be honored to be asked, yet feel nervous and anxious about writing and delivering this important speech. This is completely normal. Even if you do not have a fear of public speaking, knowing what to write to make sure this speech says everything you want it to can be tough. As providers of cremation services in Tualatin, OR. we understand how difficult this can be so we are sharing some of our best tips to help.
While most eulogies are between three and five minutes or 500-1000 words, sometimes the family may wish for a longer or shorter one. For example, if there are many people delivering eulogies, time may be an issue so the eulogy should be on the shorter side. Talk to the family and/or the funeral director and see if there are any specific requirements for the eulogy.
Once you know the expectations for the eulogy, the next step is to simply sit down with a pen and paper and just write. Don’t judge or edit anything at this point. Just let the words flow. Think about your friend. Think about your favorite memory of them, what you loved about them, what they were known for, their favorite things, their passions, and hobbies. Just write any and everything that comes to mind.
Look back on what you have written and see if there is a theme. Maybe you notice how your friend was always happy or always saw the bright side in everything. Many were the ones that always helped out anyone that was ever in need, a friend or stranger. See if there is a theme you can focus the eulogy around. Pre-planning your cemetery services can save your loved ones from having to make decisions while they’re grieving.
Having an outline can help break up the eulogy into sections and not be as intimidating as you can work on one section at a time. Typically the eulogy will be broken down into the following sections:
Now it’s time to write the eulogy. Write the first draft and know that you will most likely edit this and rewrite it several times before it is final. This is also a good time to read it to others and see what input they can offer.
Once it’s complete, practice reading it aloud several times. You want to be very familiar and very comfortable with the words. This will help you feel much more confident when the time comes to deliver it at the memorial service.
While delivering a eulogy after a friend’s cremation services in Tualatin, OR. can be intimidating, it is a great honor. Just make sure to follow these tips to help you write a meaningful and impactful eulogy.